OK, I'm NOT a switch, never have been. I can't imagine the role not being clear.

However, I've played a little as a Dom online & messed about a little with my wife over the years.

To me, there's a lot of nonsense talked about being a Dom, & how to 'get a sub to submit.'

I think it either works or it doesn't. If you believe in yourself, have total confidence in your ability- AND the sub is serious, it'll probably work.

If she's not serious, why bother?

Tojo