Quote Originally Posted by rlsk
So what's the problem?

Nothing. To me, the issue is that he's not interested in BDSM. Not everyone is. It might not be his thing.

Quote Originally Posted by rlsk
Are there any ways to encourage or inspire him to set some rules and enforce our roles? Even a little bit? Any incentive I can give him for creativity?

Unfortunately, probably not.

If you've communicated your desire to him and expressed the importance of it to him, but he's still not interested, then there's not much more than you can do.

Certainly, you can try to offer him incentive, although I'm not sure what kind, but I don't know how well it would work. It might boil down to you having to make a choice. Is he more important to you? Or is the DS?