with each post i type i can just see people nodding at the "opinionated wench" tag under my name and now you know why it's there! anyway i just can't resist the urge to say something and until there is a gag for keyboards i will throw my thoughts up and pray i don't offend anyone too badly.

i agree with most of what has been said about behavior being both innate and learned and i'd like to touch on the subject of switches for just a moment. speaking as an outsider looking in on this (i'm submissive to the core despite my loud mouth but have friends that switch) i would guess that they probably have innate tendencies one way or the other as most of us do but that perhaps their own biology is more evenly balanced toward moderation in temprament then a Dominant or submissives. or perhaps as someone else said in another post - sorry don't remember who or where at the moment and am too lazy to flip pages looking - their "nurture" clashed with their "nature" giving them learned and biological basis' for both sides of the whip.

any switches out there wanna play along and give us an answer???

for myself i've pretty much always been a submissive and fought like hell against it due to my upbringing until recently and i can say i have never felt a sense of relief and....wholeness, like the one i experienced when i gave myself over to this part of my nature under the ever so tormenting guidance of a friend of mine. but that's another story for a different thread and i think i've probably bored y'all enough at this point.

jen