Welcome Northern.Chill,

Many submissives are strictly bedroom subs. There's no problem with that. The charactoristics you mentioned above probably discribe the mojority of submissives. Dominant personality...a leader at work..etc. It's at home or in the bedroom we let the submissive side take over.

From what I'm getting from your post, you might be looking for advice on how to talk to your husband about how you want more "force" or "aggression" when in the bedroom?

Communication is the key to any relationship...I'm wondering...have you shared your fantasies with him? Told him how you like his aggression? Or even how sometimes, you NEED it?