I am not sure that waving this particular flag would be such a great idea. At least not on a radio station call in format. It has been mentioned by several people in discussions here that we are not viewed as mainstream. I would agree with that view. While most of my friends and family know of mine and my slaves lifestyle, and accept us, I do not know that people who do not know us would be quite that open.
Unfortunately the majority of the public do not view us as normal. They may be curious about us but they still want to "point a finger". A BDSM relationship is as much or more psychological than it is physical. This fact seems to be out of most peoples grasp. They view it as a form of abuse.
Imagine if a slave went to the doctors office for a routine check up. The doctor notices some bruises on their body. The first thing they will think is that this person has been abused. They might even go so far as to contact the police about it. Imagine trying to explain that this is not abuse it is only the result of your BDSM lifestyle. You'll be calling a lawyer from the jail. They would not understand it at all.
Society would react in much the same way.
You may find that caution is warranted. I value my lifestyle, but I realize that it is viewed with eyes that do not see. It will be a long time before we are viewed as something more that a curiosity or worse yet, fodder for the Jerry Springer show.
As for meeting other people, I am sure that there are others here that will have some ideas. I know that there are some organizations that hold conventions. This may prove a more viable way to meet someone. There is also the personal adds forum.
Barton.