What is BDSM?

[Nuadu]

The DS definitions of dominant and submissive are pretty much the same as the dictionary definitions.

But without getting into all that complicated mess, it's just easiest to say that in a DS relationship, someone makes the rules and someone follows them.

Don't want to argue semantics. But I think that in most dictionaries dominant and submissive will be adjectives, not nouns. Not to quibble. I came here to learn.

You say "DS relationship." I take that to mean that DS is not an activity?

Sorry if I seem really ignorant, but I have never discussed BDSM before with anyone, except my sex partners of course, and those discussions have usually been about who would be doing what to whom, you know?