If I took bondage, BDSM and the paraphernalia that goes with it, and titles such as Master and slave out of the equation, I think my sexual fantasies would still be much different than most of my vanilla friends. They may fantasize about a tall, handsome stranger who whisks them away like some romance novel hero and then takes advantage of them, but I seriously doubt they fantasize about being "forced" to deep throat a cock or getting fucked in the ass. Maybe they do. I have no idea because they are so vanilla they don't even talk about sex! Anyway, my fantasies may be somewhat tame, but what gets me off isn't. Asphyxiation makes me cum harder than anything else with anal being #2 (hahahahahaha). I've been the victim of unsatisfying sex for too many years, and now, I'm discovering certain humiliating things make it easier for me to cum, such as being spit on. I have no idea why, but when VoodooMan spits on my cunt, my ass or my face, I get very aroused. So, to summarize, you can take away all the whips and chains, but there's just something about me that isn't compatible with vanilla men. It doen't really matter what I might fantasize about day-to-day. What matters is the reality of what gets me aroused to the point of orgasm.