A question for the female subs???

[Eponine]

And even though in bdsm terms to say I'm only a sub in bed is an insult I don't think of it as such as I am just that. My submission can reach to domestic duties and other things but I would have to be aroused for it to feel right.

Didn't mean to insult you! certainly not! And I do understand, I would find it insulting when someone called me not truly submissive- it's like they don't really know me... So, I'm sorry... but I missed the part about your liking anything other than sexual submission. Ok. Issue clarified. Moving on...

It would be like trying to find a needle in a haystack blind folded with one arm tied behind my back.

True.... though I think finding the right person even within this realm was/ is like finding a needle in a haystack anyway... I don't know... it was just a thought... because I do feel for you too, and really want to be helpful... but sorry I failed!

I'm glad he crossdressing is working for you- you never know what people could get into-
for example, one time I cybered (a long time ago) with a M CD topping me... it was very interesting.. I didn't care, all I wanted/ needed was the domination... but my point is- it's all out there... good luck, Lucyboy.

As for most vanilla women being essentially sub I think it is submission in a vanilla way as in they don't want to be whipped, made to do the dishes or peed on but they still wanna be helpless.

You're right. You answered your own question here.