Quote Originally Posted by redEva
On the other point made here (spitman / vistana) it is interesting one.
Vistana, toping-from-bottom is annoying – I agree with you, totally. But, just to throw in my two cents – when talking about defining switches – no one (I ever heard of) would define him/herself as switching between being slave/Master. And as long as one does not give up all the control, one is in control. No matter how submissive the bottom is, as long as that person has safe word/phrase or right to voice his/her opinion, bottom has control – the ultimate control over his/her destiny.

From what I read into spitmans response I believe that is where he was going. Anyone of us, who ever switched, can attest to spitmans very eloquent division between two experiences. It is not to say that subbing is totally physical experience, because it is not – it is very much of a psychological experience; just the fact that we have already discussed sub-space in other threads confirms it, but the Toping is more than anything psychologically satisfying.

I would very much agree with spitman that switches just might be Dominant masochists – and playing both ends is the only thing that can satisfy all the desires and needs.
Thanks very much redEva - I think you got it exactly.