I agree with the fact that all relationships can get there, regardless of lifestyle. There is a reason for the phrase "seven year itch"

What works for us is that we only "session" once or twice a month. We have pretty vanilla sex the rest of the time. I try to introduce a new idea each time. It starts with a comment or question about something I read here or in chat. Then we have a couple weeks to think about it before it happens.

The talking, planning, buying toys or making equipment leading up to the moment is usually as exciting as the event itself.

They say the mind is the most powerful sex organ.

Good luck!