it was about a week of rather less than fun play times after the initial failed attempt, but we're better now. Not 100%, but at least he's willing to play now.

And it wasn't him questioning his abilities, but he was questioning my abilities. So every time i wanted to play all week, he was like "she can't take me". And in having that mindset, of course, I couldn't.

Basically what had happened was the whole way home from a long trip I was telling him what I was going to do to him. He had to write something for work the next day, I did a little unpacking and surfed the web. Set up was already ready. He finished his work around 11 pm, the tempting started and he was in foul mood(he says he could tell I was tired and had already started to write the play session off). So I scrapped the original higer octane plan and went for a lower grade one(he was being REALLY fussy pre-play). Which apparently ticked him off even more because he really wanted the higher grade plan, which I wanted too. Factor in the late night, long drive, and his having to work and the whole thing flopped.

Upshot is I became incompetent because I didn't get aggressive enough with him and compromised my plan to fit his mood.

Not sure if that's completely fair, but I think it is the general idea.

To him a failed play session is worse than not playing at all. Which I'm not sure I agree with. To me a failed play session is something that happens from time to time, as long as it's not ALL the time.

Thanks for listening. I'm glad someone else can admit that not every session goes wonderfully.