Quote Originally Posted by Blake

(a) I kind of find it confusing though, when people argue that they want this to be allowed to be expressed, but are worried about it because they have to go further and further because that expression is becoming more and more abundant and 'normal'. . . Subject yourself to something too much and it loses it's edge. And with more people, they read other peoples works and learn from those and adapt their thinking and move forward toward those depths that others have reached, making it a kinda normal. . . . How much further? I hope we go forever further.

(b) Balance the written word with a healthy lifestyle, and try to live out some 'healthy' fantasies. If the written word loses it's edge, maybe you need to experience life some more and leave the pen for awhile.
What is being discussed in the argument presented in (a) is the development of an obsession. It is like a drug addiction where the same dose is never enough, you always need a little more. The problem is that if someone is sexually aroused by the idea of beating up and raping kids, and writes about it as if he is really doing it, how do you define more? Where is the obsession likely to go?

What I do like is the argument presented in (b). This is really good advice on how to avoid a favourite theme becoming obsessive. First, it is hard to avoid obsession if the stuff you are writing is not a fantasy. If it is a fantasy you can balance it by discovering other fantasy themes you like and writing about those. And I don't mean by different, beating up and raping little boys instead of little girls. I mean, writing about adults, insead of kids. And it is also excellent advice, if you feel that the obsession is taking over, to leave the pen for a while and experience life some more (in the company of adults who do not share the same obsession about kids).

The same advice works pretty well if you feel you are stuck on a particular fetish, whatever it is. Try reading about other fetishes and see if you can work up some enthusiasm for one you had not thought about very much. Then see if you can dream up some new variation on that fetish theme. And I don't mean, like beating up and raping kids wearing high heeled boots. I mean, like being caned by a dominant woman wearing high heeled boots!