Burnout

[Ruby]

What do I do?

I check in with my Nat, tell him how I'm feeling.

If he still wants to play, and I have the time, I may ask him to take the lead. No, he doesn't have to play the dom/top, I might say ask something like, "If I were there right now, what would you want me to do to you or have you do for me?"

The burnout from before, tends to dissappear in those moments.

If not, and we don't want to play/scene. That's cool. We're friends first, and we have to respect both of our needs, wants and desires.

Perhaps all he needs are a few subbie tasks to keep him satisfied, we'll discuss and assign those, too.

[Mistress Orchid]

What do I do?

I check in with my Nat, tell him how I'm feeling.

If he still wants to play, and I have the time, I may ask him to take the lead. No, he doesn't have to play the dom/top, I might say ask something like, "If I were there right now, what would you want me to do to you or have you do for me?"

The burnout from before, tends to dissappear in those moments.

If not, and we don't want to play/scene. That's cool. We're friends first, and we have to respect both of our needs, wants and desires.

Perhaps all he needs are a few subbie tasks to keep him satisfied, we'll discuss and assign those, too.

Thats a much better way to go about it