Quote Originally Posted by Cicily View Post
Hello! I am new to this lifestyle and have been reading the forums like crazy trying to learn as much as I can. I recently read “I is for Introducing (Semi-Vanilla Partners/Spouses) to BDSM”. When I told my husband about my interest in BDSM he said that I was “sick and perverted.” He has no idea how beautiful a D/S relationship is. I tried to explain and encouraged him to go online get informed but he won’t budge.
Not for nothing, but a couple of things here don't add up for me at first read.

If you are in fact new to this lifestyle, as you say... how can you be sure how a D/s relationship is, pro or con? You've read, studied, etc... but until you have had the experience, truly, saying that a D/s relationship is beautiful, gorgeous, hideous, or hellish (or anything else, for that matter) might be a bit presumptuous, perhaps? For your consideration, but until you've lived it - thinking you are turning the light on for someone simply because YOU might think you are, may not necessarily equate to be their perception of "ideal".

And as far as your husband goes - You need to weigh what matters most for you. Either your inner satisfaction rules your life, or your love for him outweighs your need for the whip, as it were.

My only advice is this: choose wisely.

Love does not come around everyday, but whips are just down the block...