I am a switch - at least that is the label.

Why? Honestly, I do not know - that is just who I am and what I do.

I am primarly a Dom (and I am not too happy about that label, either.) As IDCrewDawg put it "Dom's will tend to be Dom without wondering" - that is almost always my first reflex and I have maching basic personality.

It takes special person to trigger subimissive refex in me (It is ALWAYS about persons!). The need and occasioanal fanstizing and play are alway there but the REAL need rises only occasianaly. When I sub i want to be VERY submissive ,,,, even if i do not always succed.

So, there is no 'ultimate decission' for me. I am BOTH. Except that word BOTH is misleading ... I am never both at the same time. It is either or tye of thing.

I switch with the sae person now (and she is lovely person!) There are problems with logistics and synchronisation, of course, but there is no problem with actual switching - I have accepted myself as such.

There are various ways to explore this besides visiting a pro. Making fantasies more tangible and plastic - perhaps writing them down, on line play etc...

But you have to try it one way or another. And in my opinion exprlorin dominant side will not 'diminish' subimissive one. On the contrary.