Quote Originally Posted by Warbaby1943

I know some here have experience from both sides of the D/s. What makes the ultimate decision for you or do you continue swinging both ways?

What a dilemma. Any thoughts?
I switch therefore I am.

Enjoying both my miss and pet roles,
I get to have my cake, have it served to me and serve it, too.

The ultimate decision for me is to be who I am.
If I didn't enjoy either role, then I wouldn't take it on.

When I write or fantasize, I'm often in both roles at the same time, taking and giving, giving and receiving with my characters.

When reading or looking at pictures, I can picture myself in either d/s role.

In real life, I can switch roles in seconds, depending on the needs, wants and desires of my partner.

Yes, it's true, if both partners are switches, they can change roles in the middle of a play session.

There are professionals who will play the part of the submissive to please their clients.

It's not always about torture or tying someone up. Often times, its about those forceful commands, that can help the collective you - and not anyone in particular - take charge. Little things like holding your partners hands in yours, telling them what to do instead of asking, telling them what you're going to do to them, put you into the topping/dom role. If it turns both you and your partner on, then hey, by all means continue.

A note of caution: what turns a person on in fantasy, may not turn them on in real life. It's important to be aware of your partner at all times when you are in the top/dom role and make sure that the playtime stays just that.