Where to live

[TomOfSweden]

London and Amsterdam are widely seen as the capitals of kink. Berlin is also a contender. I recommend staying clear of USA all together if you want to be in contact with a vibrant BDSM sex scene.

Sweden isn't great, but at least it's only a short plane ride to the heart of the action.

[gloombunny]

I had to leave San Francisco (which I adore) 'cuz it was too expensive, so for now I'm living in Seattle, which is sort of the next best thing. There's a pretty good BDSM scene here I think, though it's a tilted a bit towards older folks than you or me.