I know i am a sub from the feeling of deep joy and happiness that lies on top and above the sexual pleasure. I love the fact that submissivness makes me feel stronger.
The realisation that dawned on me under a year ago still thrills me, i would never have thought i was a sub myself. Sounds strange maybe, but if i would take a bet 2 years ago when not knowing anything about bdsm lifestyle, i would have put me in the Dom section.
I have been playing Dom many times earlyer, what i experienced was that the pleasure from dominating a man was felt in my mind, um... hard to explain, i dont find the words. But the power and the fun pleased my mind and not so much my body. Probably have much to do with the feminist in me.
So thats how i know. My body tells me.

And to the subject of men and womens status in society today, i am most annoyed over the fact that our language contains mostly male words - like chairman, foreman, policeman and so on. And it enrages me that people dont strive to change this when its a woman inhabiting those positions. Sometimes that happen, but many times not.
The language have an immence power over how we wiew things.
I dont think much have changed since the ww`s started. Wimen have started to work outside the home and can vote, but still, theres a long way to go.
I wish we could stop looking at gender and focus on each persons abillities instead.