ok, so the only time that i can remember thinking that is shortly after i first logged onto this site. I was browsing the forums and i came across a post by Sir_Russell that was a limit checklist for Doms/subs before they play together. As i read down the list i didn't even know what some of the stuff was..i had to look it up...and i thought holy shit! People actually do that?? Then i realized that there are so many people in my vanilla life that would think the same thing about me. After that i have been completely non-judgemental about everything else i have learned. I may not want to do it all but hey, it may really turn someone else on!