I think happiness starts with liking yourself (since your self is pretty hard to shake) and having friends and family that keep it interesting and help you to grow as a person. After you have those things in place, you figure out how to fill in the gaps. For me, being a member of this community is a way to fill in a gap in my life - given that my wife does not share my bdsm interests. If it were not for you people, I would not have anyone to visit with about these desires. The people here make me happy with their posts, stories, word games, etc. Thank you all for having me.