Hi there Masters_desire:

I am not from the UK but I just wanted to say that your private ceremony should be as personal to you as your wedding is. I have found some links on the site that may give you some ideas as well as far as contracts go and so on.

http://www.bdsmlibrary.com/forums/showthread.php?t=3693

http://www.bdsmlibrary.com/forums/showthread.php?t=4496

http://www.bdsmlibrary.com/forums/showthread.php?t=3748

Whatever you both do on your special day should be something you can plan together and will hold special meaning to you both. I am sure that there are other members that will have some ideas for you as well. I wish you both happiness and good luck with your planning.