With regard to the chat room, if you're going to choose to use a controversial name then you've got to expect controversy.

Submissive wife, I like your name and your avatar too. Your name conforms to this lifestyle, his does not.

It’s a fact that many of the stories here contain rape, but I'm sure that cariad, and those like her, read the story codes and warnings and therefore don't read any further. It's impossible, however, to avoid names and avatars, that's why most people choose their's prudently.

Therapist/TheRapist, there are many very broad and open-minded people here who will happily interact with you regardless of your name. Personally, if I was you, I would simply change it, but that's me. BTW, I'm pleased to meet you regardless of all this. You seem like an interesting and sincere man.

cariad, you already know it, but I'm going to say it publicly also, your story simply breaks my heart, it makes me angry and sad all at the same time. *hugs*

As it's already been stated, cariad's is not a unique case within this lifestyle. I can't begin to understand what she, and others like her, have been through, I don't think anyone who hasn't been there themselves can, but can't we aleast try to be sensitive and have a little understanding here?