Why do many BDSM people look down on switches?

[Ozme52]

My only issue with switches is that everywhere I've particpated, online and real life, they complain that they're looked down upon. Well, in my not so humble opinion, it's a fallacy except for the part that is wish fulfillment. All the happy switches that I know have come to terms that they enjoy both roles. Only those who think they need to make a final decision complain that they're somehow second class citizens within the lifestyle.

And my experience is that they are really complaining that they don't get to play with subs who want a full time dom. Or that they won't be chosen by a dom who wants a full time sub. It's really reverse discrimination. They're mostly upset because "we" want someone who HAS made the decision. Not that I think less of them. It's just what I want.

And I will play with a switch if we have chemistry... but if they want to reverse roles with me it's unlikely that said chemistry will last long. Not their fault, not mine. It's just how I'm wired. But some will say that I am being unfair because I would choose a sub over a switch.

Ridiculous.

[davina_]

My only issue with switches is that everywhere I've particpated, online and real life, they complain that they're looked down upon...Ridiculous.

I agree with everything you say. I think you are "participating" with switches that might not be secure in the fact that they aren't full time either way and therefore shouldn't expect to be treated as such. I think a real switch realizes that his/her oppertunities are different. We have a unique playing field and as such, can't compare ourseleves to the likes of others who play differently. I don't think it's a matter of looking down or up, but just a different direction.