Online you or offline you?

[jem]

Interesting thread. Online me and offline me are both ME. Society dictates that we behave in different ways in different situations. At work I am a manager. A leader. Very focused, driven, strong and will play the 'boss card' as and when needed. I am fiercely independent and I strive to be the most successful person ever! I want to help those I work with. I want to support and I hope to please by doing a good job. At home with my Master I am strong. Determined, driven and hope I make him proud more than I don't with my efforts and my submission. I am honest, I struggle to open up to him at times I blush furiously and struggle to believe in me and I make big fat mistakes. I have a silly, playful streak that drives him to distraction but I strive to respect and honour him. I HATE to disappoint. I struggle within my submission at times and the dreaded demons of the past occasionally haunt me. I am private I have a good circle of friends but not that know the real me as most are work friends and it would compromise my role. Online - well those who know me can decide for themselves if I am the same. I hope I am. I don't pretend to be anything I am not .... I learned early on that acting up or differently doesn't go well for me! I sit and type this and even now still question myself....nice food for thought! Xxxxx

[Solis]

I am fiercely independent and I strive to be the most successful person ever! I want to help those I work with. I want to support and I hope to please by doing a good job.

That makes a world of sense, by the way. The little research I've seen on subs highlights a perfectionist streak in them, but it's linked to a need to please. Maybe "if I'm perfect, I'm pleasing"? Some of the subs I've known have been exceedingly successful, independent executives and leaders in their professions. They're glad to lead and gladder, it seems, to get home and stop. I'm not sure but I've imagined an analogy to peeling off pantyhose after a long day at the office. They were appropriate at work and they weren't awful ... until you imagine how good it will feel to be rid of them and free.

At home with my Master I am strong. Determined, driven and hope I make him proud more than I don't with my efforts and my submission ... I HATE to disappoint.

Perhaps you are the perfectionist chipmunk were sisters separated at birth? She is glorious in her determination to tolerate no slips on her own part, while uncommonly generous in her refusal to notice mine.

You are, separately and collectively, wondrous.

S.