Wannabe subs - an undiscussed topic?

[Phantome]

A red flag that I usually see is when potential sub touts themselves as having "no limits." I just find that hard to believe. I also tend to notice when a sub jumps in and addresses everyone as Master (whether they know the person or not). Just kind of raises my eyebrows. If a sub is more interested in an immediate sex/control situation than even knowing your name, it just screams wannbe to me.

But yeah, TW, I think you have a point. I think that a wannbe dom may have to potential to be more concerning or dangerous, but there are definitely wannbe subs, as well.
-Phan

[~hellish one~]

I also tend to notice when a sub jumps in and addresses everyone as Master (whether they know the person or not). Just kind of raises my eyebrows.

this is also a pet peeve of mine. it is just my personal opinion though. to me, Master/Sir/etc are titles that require an amount of respect to have been earned before i'll start dishing them out. it has been a LONG time since i've referred to anyone as Master. it is such a coveted title that, IMO, should be reserved for that one special person in your life. to see it tossed around so casually until it's lost it's meaning...i hate it. the same goes with "Sir". there are many in here that i greatly respect, but there is only one that, for me personally, is deserving of said title...and he knows who he is. but like i said, that's just my opinion.

generally speaking, i definitely think the wannabe complex isn't just reserved for Dominants. there are many wannabe submissives out there as well. the thing though...is that we are all different. so what seems absurd to me, may not seem odd at all to someone else. but does that mean they are a wannabe? or that i am a wannabe?

[cookiecat]

Master/Sir/etc are titles that require an amount of respect to have been earned before i'll start dishing them out.... it is such a coveted title that, IMO, should be reserved for that one special person in your life. to see it tossed around so casually until it's lost it's meaning...i hate it. the same goes with "Sir". there are many in here that i greatly respect, but there is only one that, for me personally, is deserving of said title...and he knows who he is. but like i said, that's just my opinion.

very well said, hellish one. trust & respect - along with the titles (on both sides - "sir" "pet" - sub/dom) - are earned...

[~hellish one~]

very well said, hellish one. trust & respect - along with the titles (on both sides - "sir" "pet" - sub/dom) - are earned...

thank you cookiecat! and you are right as well. it goes both ways.