So long but not Goodbye

[Tasker]

I was going to let this one go, but I just kept coming back to it and gritting my teeth. I'm actually surprised it hasn't been edited, but...~shrugs~

Tasker, your reasons for wanting to moderate a chat room are good and very admirable. I think the problem is that there are quite a few of us who have stopped enjoying chat and having fun with friends, especially if said friends are getting banned. If they deserve to get banned, then so be it. By all means, ban them. But, I will never, for one second, believe that Red deserved it. Now for you to go on and basically say that those of us who disagree with the way things are going in chat nowadays are wanting to "play silly games"...~shakes my head~ Not nice. Everyone is entitled to their opinion...I am...and you are. I just find it odd that by disagreeing or stating a differing opinion, now suddenly we are all playing silly games?

Do I miss Library chat? Sure I do. I miss all my friends in there. I miss the fun. But I refuse to go back...until something changes. Until then I guess I will just gather up my friends and go play silly games with them in a different chatroom. ~rme~ Anyone up for a game of Monopoly? lol

babt_girl(W) My sincerest appologies if my previous comment appeared to be directed at you. It was not. Reading back over my original post I can see I made the error of generalising way too much in an effort to avoid naming names.

The orginal one was about a small group that was started and has seem to have grown all due to the fact that someone complained to their S/O that they had been banned from chat and when in fact they HAD NOT been at the time and spiraled downhill from there. Unfortunatly others then jumped on the bandwagon, some for reasons of their own, some with an axe to grind, and some because they wanted to believe their friend.

The whole situation IMHO is sad as there have been members that have left of their own accord over this.

PMs without permission. Let a Mod know. I NEVER let that one pass without the PMer being at first given a polite warning, in the main room, that PMing without obtaining permission in the main room is not allowed. As sheepy has stated, we need to know who is doing it before we can deal with the problem.

One thing to bear in mind when you see a ban occur in chat. You do not know how many times that particular person may have been warned about their behaviour or breach of rules. Most warnings happen via PM. the room does not see this, nor should they. Peolpe do make mistakes, so they get a first polite warning in PM. The sole exception to this I use is for a first time PM without permission. This also lets everyone know and reminds them of that rule.

[Psynymph]

Unfortunatly others then jumped on the bandwagon, some for reasons of their own, some with an axe to grind, and some because they wanted to believe their friend.

The whole situation IMHO is sad as there have been members that have left of their own accord over this.

~sorry cariad~

i take offense to the "bandwagon" remark because, to me, it implies that the people that posted in this thread are merely following a general idea, not thinking on their own. and this is of course assuming you were speaking mainly of this particular thread, considering you are posting in it.

i had absolutely no intentions of spreading my opinion or convincing those of it. many people have asked what exactly this thread was about, or what was going on, and not a single time have i attempted to explain to them.

i started this thread solely to voice my opinion of a problem i perceived. i'm not particularly friendly with any of those that have been banned, not anymore friendly than i am/was with you, Tasker, AC and delia. i am not taking sides, except my own side.

And obviously, there is a real problem, for SO many people to feel basically the same as i do. i was just the first to actually publicly say something, well besides Red.

And as DTT pointed out, apparently there is SOME sort of problem that needs to be addressed seeing as so many people have said they will no longer be apart of the chat room.

So maybe instead of everyone getting offended, maybe they should simply take an unbiased step back and look at it from a different, impersonal point of view.

Maybe instead of getting angry at those of us that chose to maturely voice our opinions that aren't the same of yours, you should actually listen.

There is no easy solution to this problem. It's a pretty big, but also delicate problem. It involves individuals and i understand completely that in this situation it's very hard for sides not to get offended. i realize that people felt as if they were under attack.

But no one, from either "side", has been told not to voice their own concerns, suggestions, or opinions. Because that is exactly what this thread was made for.

And Tasker for the record, only maybe half of this was actually directed at you. The rest was at the rest of the individuals on the "other side".