Parents and children in DOM/sub role

[Ozme52]

True, we're talking semantics... mostly... but...

Subs have a choice in the matter. Children don't. Ignore all else and that alone disqualifies it as dom-sub... obviously that's my opinion but it's a strong one I maintain.

You can even go back to the days of true chattel slavery, especially slavery in ancient times, and the manner (as observed from writings and 'histories' of those eras,) and the manner in which children are treated v. slaves, even the manner in which children are taught to interact with adults v. slaves, belies, again my opinion, this notion that there is anything more than a superficial similarity between dom-sub and parent-child.

And I will reiterate, that parents who think of this as any kind of social pecking order rather than a parent-child relationship will ultimately fail their children when they begin to need to rely on themselves... AND have a place to fall back on when they make mistakes.

"My way or the highway" parents all too often create offspring with passive-agressive behavior or "lose" there children as they enter their teens, sometimes to the real highway, and often to the mental highway.

[wingsofanangel]

True, we're talking semantics... mostly... but...

Subs have a choice in the matter. Children don't. Ignore all else and that alone disqualifies it as dom-sub... obviously that's my opinion but it's a strong one I maintain.

Really?

I beg to differ.

Ask around. I bet many subs will agree with me.

Who in the world would choose to be different? Choose to be something so taboo? I know I didn't choose it. Of course to an extent we make a choice... But really I am a slave to my own desires.. how can I say no? There are some who choose to be submissive.. but I think its comparible to someone who is gay. How many actually choose? Most say thats how they are born.


I feel I was BORN a submissive.. therefor having no choice... and my life shaped me into being a more submissive person... my seeds were planted (when I was born) ... my life experiences watered. I bloomed.

Would I want to be anything other than what I am? No.

But my point is... who is to say there is a choice. I feel like if I went against my natural inclination of being a submissive that I would be going against myself in so many ways.. what a struggle! What a hassle... and how unhappy would I be.

So YES.. While I have the choice of who will Dom me.... I do not have a choice to what is inside of me. I am who I am. I am a submissive female.


My rant is going off topic a bit but I did want to state that loud and clear.

Anywhoo..

I feel that some of the posts here are becoming a little.. flamey... and I did take offense to one post. If that continues I will not post again in this thread.

It is one thing to post how you feel.. it is completley different to say that if someone does not believe as you do then they would be viewed a sick.. or twisted.. or whatever the heck I stoped reading because I was offended.


HELLO we're on a BDSM forum.. uhm... I don't think this topic in general is whats going to get anyone looked at as sick.. and twisted... and make parents keep their kids away from BDSM-sers....


I still think there is a corolation between the two. There are differences.. but there are very much similarites. And believing so doesn't make one perverted in a sick sense... or a pedophile... or anything like that.

[Selash]

Alrighty... I would like everyone to just cool their heels abit... We all have different parenting or social views.. And that is a great thing, but lets us all take a moment and breath here...

[Ozme52]

Really?

I beg to differ.

Ask around. I bet many subs will agree with me.

Who in the world would choose to be different? Choose to be something so taboo? I know I didn't choose it. Of course to an extent we make a choice... But really I am a slave to my own desires.. how can I say no? There are some who choose to be submissive.. but I think its comparible to someone who is gay. How many actually choose? Most say thats how they are born.


I feel I was BORN a submissive.. therefor having no choice... and my life shaped me into being a more submissive person... my seeds were planted (when I was born) ... my life experiences watered. I bloomed.

Would I want to be anything other than what I am? No.

But my point is... who is to say there is a choice. I feel like if I went against my natural inclination of being a submissive that I would be going against myself in so many ways.. what a struggle! What a hassle... and how unhappy would I be.

So YES.. While I have the choice of who will Dom me.... I do not have a choice to what is inside of me. I am who I am. I am a submissive female.

That's the choice to which I was referring.