What am I? Sub? Dom? Wannabe?

[DowntownAmber]

People are complex. That's not good, not bad, just the way we are. It's a good thing to question ourselves and what we do to better understand our own motivation, but I'm never sure it behooves us to have to label everything. Like Gem mentioned, I too am very "Dom" in my day to day life. I like being in control, and historically have been the top in my relationships. Yet, I love to submit. I adore being with a man that can draw out and command that part of my personality. Does that mean I'm not a true submissive? Or maybe a switch? Perhaps just a bad Domme that got bored? *g* Nah, I think it simply means our personalities reflect off of different people in different ways and vice versa. Play with your different fantasies and turns ons and don't worry about what they mean you are, you'll gravitate to a definition that suits you personally and individually in your own good time.

[gemmy]

People are complex. That's not good, not bad, just the way we are. It's a good thing to question ourselves and what we do to better understand our own motivation, but I'm never sure it behooves us to have to label everything. Like Gem mentioned, I too am very "Dom" in my day to day life. I like being in control, and historically have been the top in my relationships. Yet, I love to submit. I adore being with a man that can draw out and command that part of my personality. Does that mean I'm not a true submissive? Or maybe a switch? Perhaps just a bad Domme that got bored? *g* Nah, I think it simply means our personalities reflect off of different people in different ways and vice versa. Play with your different fantasies and turns ons and don't worry about what they mean you are, you'll gravitate to a definition that suits you personally and individually in your own good time.

yup yup, exactly