Dominants: Who am I? How did I get here?

[Shadoww]

Both new as dominant as to this thread. So I start with a question. I notice it is hard not to soften up when the sub is suffering, begging & pleading. Perhaps that male thing about women crying?
What keeps you from softening up?

[leo9]

Both new as dominant as to this thread. So I start with a question. I notice it is hard not to soften up when the sub is suffering, begging & pleading. Perhaps that male thing about women crying?
What keeps you from softening up?

Up till recently, I'd have said "Enjoying it!" When my previous slaves begged and cried I loved it, it was as much a sign of my power as when they screamed with pain or crawled in submission. But there is something about the way thir cries that hits all the wrong buttons and makes me feel I should be apologising.

She doesn't want it to happen any more than I do, we both know it's a threat to our relationship. So if anyone has an answer to this one, we'd be grateful.