New Kink Label?

[littlepet]

hehe yes, I'm 29. Still just a baby. :P Though there was a time I think I thought kink was somehow just gonna "end" by 35. I'm glad that's not the case. It would be terribly sad.

[Polaris]

hehe yes, I'm 29. Still just a baby. :P Though there was a time I think I thought kink was somehow just gonna "end" by 35. I'm glad that's not the case. It would be terribly sad.

Oh gosh, don't plant ideas in my head! I'm 26, but I'll have to make sure now to make the best out of the time *giggles*

On the original topic, I don't think that the term 'pet' as you use it is all that new, and I'm pretty sure that it existed before second life got big already. I am, however, under the impression that it is used far more frequently these days. There seems to be much more information floating about, and it seems to be quite a topical thing -- if it has anything to do with second life or not I could not tell.

I agree that it fills a niché, too. I feel sometimes that all these 'lifestyle labels' tend to be a little bit inflexible, and that might be a problem as well, we are all different and BDSM has quite the range. I know that I for my part struggle with finding the appropriate term for myself. I feel that I don't really fit into any of the available categories (not the pet one, either), so I'll just go with the good old submissive for now and invent an awesome new term at some point

It's strange somehow that we seem to try to 'fit in', though. It should be sufficient to be what we are, whatever name you want to give it. Yet somehow words in this context seem to have so much more significance at times.....and now I got completely carried away. Time to stop rambling!

[littlepet]

Hi Polaris,

Hmmm, well if it's not new I'm kind of glad about that. Though I guess it doesn't really matter in the grand scheme if it's new or if it's old, if it fits. :P

I think what complicates matters further is every single label has a slightly different meaning to different people who use it. There are at least 3 different ways one can mean "pet."

There are people who use the word "slave" who aren't in an actual TPE and use safewords. And these two groups of people are likely to get into a rumble over who really has the right to use the word, etc. Because to some people "slave" is a metaphor, and to some it describes and actual reality. And the metaphor people are "diluting" the actual reality people (from the actual reality people's perspective) and the actual reality people are freaking out the metaphor people cause they aren't using safewords and as we all know that just MUST be "evil" (sarcasm)

The whole thing kind of makes me want to retreat back into my cave.

hahahaha @ "invent an awesome new term at some point" hehehe. Well you could write a series of novels then use that term.

My theory is that conventional relationships are propped up by the larger social infrastructure. Kink style relationships are not. So human beings being pack animals, there is a need for "acceptance" within the pack. Trouble is...the pack can't agree and there are about 50 different sub-packs, each convinced they follow the "best" way.

Yay Sisterhoney! That's awesome!

[sisterhoney61 {RW}]

hehe yes, I'm 29. Still just a baby. :P Though there was a time I think I thought kink was somehow just gonna "end" by 35. I'm glad that's not the case. It would be terribly sad.

Oh, my Goddess, girl, let's hope not! I didn't find Master until I was almost 40 and I'm 47 now. I'm just getting started. As long as He can still wield the whip and I can still kneel, I have no plans on ending my kinky life!