Body Size & Shape

[FatherTimejr]

I do understand Jezabel, I hope I didn't offend by what I said, but it is how I feel and I cant apologize for it, if its fair or not. For me, very overweight people dont attract me, I cant make my body feel something it doesn't.... as for friends, colleagues and so forth? I have no problems, as people, there's no problem, as a sexual mate...well I cant help but not feel that way.

The same way that I can understand women not being attracted to me for the extra weight I carry and I cant hold that against them either.

In the end though insults throne as in really skinny or really heavy make me sick and such, is incredibly insensitive and I don t condone that by any means. But i've also learned to take those opinions and feelings with a grain of salt.

Anyways in the end with anything ive written I mean no offense to anyone, my feelings on it are ones I fee I cant help, my body feels as it does and well -shrugs- its not like I can take a wrench to a screw in my brain and tighten it to fix things.

edit: and to Icy, I'm sorry you have to go through that and it blows, stigma one way or another is unfortunates, and its amazing how many people just let the opinions built on that stigma just GO with out any moment of pause of if it makes sense

But you are who you are, there will be the assholes out there and just treat them as a grain of sand on a beach, and the ones who are the good ones treat as a gorgeous shell or a piece of beach glass. -shrugs- This goes to jezabel too.

[MissConfused]

FathertimeJr do you think perhaps the body image you have of yourself is in your head?
I find a man sexy when he knows he is sexy and knows how to carry himself
A man trying to wear a pair of slacks several sizes too small looks like a fool
But a man who loves himself for himself and carries that with pride in his appearance and attitude is ALWAYS HOT!

[icey]

Iand to Icy, I'm sorry you have to go through that and it blows, stigma one way or another is unfortunates, .

thankyou, although it doesnt bother me personally it just bothers me that i have seen quite a few people hurt by those kind of comments and it makes me angry that people are so one-sided and blind sometimes.
i truly do feel bad for people who are mocked because of their body size and shape..whether they are big or small, its wrong, and something ive noticed on this thread...people are still dismissing it and saying oh but its worse cos ive seen more ''fat'' people get jeered at than thin! its not numbers that count, it's feelings!

to answer the original question this time i'll be totally honest instead of trying to be inoffensive...YES i am repelled by fat (not the people themselves which is a huge difference) ,i hate it and it scares the shit outta me...BUT before you all get on your high horses thats all i see in myself! my own fat! i have a phobia of it, and if it wasnt for the fact that people have been quite happy to post about skinny people bones being uncomfortable etc then no i wouldnt have posted.

[Veridical]

So I'm slightly late on the topic, but I like to think it's fashionable. ;D

I'm neither repelled nor attracted to any particular body type as far as weight goes. What I am attracted to is a man who carries himself with an air of pride, something that seems to be lacking in many people. If you feel good about you, and to hell with what everyone else thinks, that's what matters. According to most BMI charts, I am overweight, and to be in my BMI for my height, you would be able to count all my ribs and I'd look sick a lot. My bone structure does not allow for BMI to be accurate for me, so instead of worrying with pounds, I worry with inches. As the old saying goes, muscle weighs more than fat by double, and to be muscled, you have to be overweight, simply because of the density of the tissue for muscle.

I do not hold prejudice for anyone, be it weight, nationality, race, or anything of the such. Do I see myself sexually being with a very obese individual? I've done it once, and it wasn't horrible. But he did not have the stamina to keep up with me. Nor could I suck his cock without being at an odd angle. So I don't suppose an obese individual is right for me, simply due to the fact that I ran circles around the individual I was with, nothing against anyone else who is obese. It's a personal preference. I do not hold it against him, either, it was just something that simply could not be helped without him working out, and he refused to do it. -Sighs.-

My avatar cannot represent me as it's two men, however, I have numerous pictures of myself in my album. I'm not afraid to admit I need to lose inches. Nor am I afraid to do something about it. 40 crunches, 20 leg lifts, 10 girly push ups, 50 toe ups(if you don't know what this is I can offer you that information), 1 mile walk, and a multitude of DDR a day, has brought my -inches- under control, but I've gained weight due to muscle. At the end of the day, though...I don't do these things for other people. I do them for me, because it's what I -want- to do.