Girl in the moon

[rsjankowski]

vanilla means not a bdsm sexual lifestyle, pretty much everything is dull or boring, with no place for something out of the ordinary. kinda like stale rice cakes, no taste, nothing to them.

[lucy]

vanilla means not a bdsm sexual lifestyle, pretty much everything is dull or boring, with no place for something out of the ordinary. kinda like stale rice cakes, no taste, nothing to them.

a bit harsh, imho. Many people like it the vanilla way and many of them are probably just as happy as BDSMers.

[dohima]

I want to thank Robert and Lucy for the useful posts about the meaning of "vanilla". I also have got valuable information from denuseri in private messages. My real problem was whether I fulfilled my "About Me" right or revealed again how stupid I was. I am, of course, just I don't like if it shows. :-) I am telling there about my love relationships, while I can see that other people are telling about their non-sexual interests, as reading, music etc. Denuseri has assured me that it goes both way. Confirmed by Robert's and Lucy's posts, I leave it as it is. Thanks again for your kindness.

[rsjankowski]

a bit harsh, imho. Many people like it the vanilla way and many of them are probably just as happy as BDSMers.

sometimes i get that, i try to be blunt and to the point, but alot of times it comes across as arrogant or mean. occupational hazard? sorry if it happens just trying to be helpful.

[dohima]

While I think Lucy is right, let me say, however, that your post was helpful for me, Robert. I thank you for it repeatedly. Now I start using the term "vanilla" myself. :-)

sometimes i get that, i try to be blunt and to the point, but alot of times it comes across as arrogant or mean. occupational hazard? sorry if it happens just trying to be helpful.

[dohima]

A very kind gentleman messaged me, saying that he wouldn't mind punishing me online. His first question was whether I have a webcam. Well, I came to fully understand the demand. A man wants to see me when punished. He wants to see a girl naked. If he tells me to whip myself, he wants to see the whip strokes administered properly. If he tells me to put clamps on my nipples, he wants to see those clamps applied. I he tells me to kneel on rice, he wants to see the marks on my knees. Perhaps he wants to see a dildo at work. And I don't think that females are much different. Because I want to hide my identity and don't show my face, my ideas about cyber punishment sessions were really silly. Any fantasy play I still want to do will take place via private messaging. A nice lady gave me permission to kiss her feet. I do it almost every day, with the happy excitement of self-humiliation in my body. It doesn't take place via webcam, only in private messages. I enjoy going down to my knees and kissing the floor (in my fantasy: her feet) at the end of my letters, and she enjoys my kiss reading my messages (in her fantasy: feeling my lips on her feet). I have no foot fetish, what I enjoy is humiliation.
Similar way I could enjoy being whipped. You give me the number of strokes. They will be executed (in reality, not only in fantasy) and thanked properly. Please punish me for being so silly as I was. My pain will be real, not mere fantasy.