Red flags for those new to the lifestyle

[thir]

"Goes to great lengths to get revenge on people."
I can only imagine an example. Hopefully a lot of maniacal laughing was used.

There are people who can bear a serious and potentially dangrous grudge who would never dream of warning anyone. I am glad if you haven't met any.

Or the claim is dubious:
"Has multiple online identities for interacting with the same communities."
As Lady FireinIce essentially disproved, not putting my real name on my yahoo messenger account actually promotes my own safety.

That is why it is good to discuss the list - what is meant? What is the context? It is hard to make a list which is short yet covers everything.

Then there is a third example I realized, the claim is opposite of reality:
"Has no BDSM references or friends you can talk to."
"Criticizes the BDSM community and refuses to participate, especially if they never were part of it."

I hope I can be forgiven for not wanting to hang out in a warehouse with some bald guys.

BDSM communities vary a lot.

To be completely honest, I find people who go to "dungeons" a lot, seem to be the most creepy and furtherest away from reality. Being part of the BDSM "community" doesn't make someone suddenly less dangerous. In fact, I feel I could argue (with equally strong premises as aforementioned, i.e. none) that they are more dangerous than normal people.

Why should people who go to a club or organsations be "creepy and furthest away from reality?" Or, indeed, more dangerous than other people?
Since this is a newcomer's forum, and many are adviced to seek out bdsm societies, maybe you should explain this very emphatic view.

I have myself had only good experiences with such organisations, which gave me security when I started, and good friends which I have had for many years after.
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[leo9]

Why should people who go to a club or organsations be "creepy and furthest away from reality?" Or, indeed, more dangerous than other people?

Since he also thinks they're "some bald guys," this is obviously more based on prejudice than real experience. Those of us who actually have some contact with clubs would agree with you. But then, I'm a bald guy (well, retreating hairline,) as well as a fan of clubs, so obviously I'm creepy and far from reality.