Advice to a submissive on proper attitude and thinking.

[thir]

ks, consider this. You serve your master but never provide him with an outlet to just let himself go? He always has to read you and carefully tread that fine line that marks your day-to-day level of comfort? Why not gift him with a safeword you will use if he goes beyond your capacity to absorb... and let him freely use you without having to monitor you or himself. Let him revel in a release of his restraints and go explore his own limits as he uses you, with the knowledge that YOU will monitor yourself so that he can go farther than he might otherwise go.

You have a good point there, Ozme.

People say: I don't want a safeword, it is all about trust, and I trust my dom.

Provocative comment comming up: I have experienced a number of subs who really meant : "I leave it to you to figure out what I can handle, it's easier and more exciting that way, because I can feel like a real slave with no bounderies. Of course, if you get my reactions wrong, it is all your fault and you are a Bad dom."

Result, as Ozme says, is sometimes that the dom becomes a service instrument for the sub!

Now, obviously a lot of people who say they do not want a safe word are Not like this. But I agree with Ozme that if the dom wants a safeword, then that's how it is going to be!

[hippie child]

You have a good point there, Ozme.

People say: I don't want a safeword, it is all about trust, and I trust my dom.

Provocative comment comming up: I have experienced a number of subs who really meant : "I leave it to you to figure out what I can handle, it's easier and more exciting that way, because I can feel like a real slave with no bounderies. Of course, if you get my reactions wrong, it is all your fault and you are a Bad dom."

Result, as Ozme says, is sometimes that the dom becomes a service instrument for the sub!

Now, obviously a lot of people who say they do not want a safe word are Not like this. But I agree with Ozme that if the dom wants a safeword, then that's how it is going to be!

I agree with this whole heartedly.

When establishing perameters a safe word is of vital importance. It shows a level of true of servitude and communication that would other wise be lacking.
When you leave an unestablished limit, you are in fact not fully giving in to servitued in that you're playing a guessing game with your D. If you're playing, then it's not a true commitment to them.
Also, I don't feel you're being true to yourself as a submissive by not agreeing to this level of committment, in that you are not truly looking at your own real self and taking responsibility for yourself.
Both parties have responsibilities to each other and to themselves, and those responsibilities are of equal importance.

Again, this is just my own opinion.